Experience gained during our life is what makes us actually who we are. What we have done and what we have not done, fake relationships, decisions made and random memories collected mold us all the time and change somehow who we are waking up the next morning. Every one of us no doubt possesses all these nuances. Some people, for example, think that a license of marriage grants them a license of knowledge, and they are assured that absolute disclosure is significant in making up the strongest bond possible. Gabriel turns to be one of these people. He thinks that Gretta has been unfaithful and discreet affection from him, which is completely wrong; also put into question is if years, marriage and children are sufficient for her to forget, which is nonsensical; the concept of the honesty of prior romantic memories when interacting with current relations of goodness come in to play as a celebrating yes; and at the end , Gabriel seems trying to correct himself declaring that it rains both on the living and on the dead.

Itâ??s quite unfair to blame Gretta for hiding out anything from Gabriel and it is senseless to assert a breach of loyalty. Gretta possesses a memory coming from her deep youth that took many years for her to come up against. The first boy, Michael Furey was his name, she had a real emotional feeling to , had died because he happened to see her before her leaving for the convent, and for a long years she felt guilty for this. The only thing that reminded her of Michael was a song once sung by a protector of The Lass of Aughrim, a Christmass party. She never happened to see him, never heard his name and never mentioned him. Even taking into consideration her considerable weakness from the memory, she never praised or bestowed his name with endless love. Some memories from the past just came to her mind during moments of nostalgia, which can no way be regarded as disloyalty. She recollected that memory, mostly because of the fact that she grew past residing on it, but mostly to save her. Kant believes that the first obligation is to preserve life. One can regard that as preserving of one’s mental health. She wanted to live a happier life so she preferred to hide the pain she once experienced of Michael’s death. And it is no way selfish but self-preserving.